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Six meaningful conversations, three long walks and two barn-storming rows every month - that's the recipe for a perfect marriage, according to research.

A study of 2,000 UK happily wed adults also shows they benefit from taking a short break away together twice a year, as well as two longer holidays.

The Warner Leisure Hotels study also reveals the top 50 elements which are key to a happy marriage, including pursuing your own hobbies and interests, allowing your other half to see you at your worst, and being silly with each other.

Couples also place importance on listening to each other grumble about work, showing the other how proud you are of them and being respectful in front of others.

Simon Thompson, managing director of Warner Leisure Hotels, the adult-only hotel group which commissioned the research, said: “We weren’t surprised to see that taking short breaks is one of the secret ingredients to a happy marriage – many couples who visit us say they feel closer after a romantic weekend relaxing and unwinding together, and it certainly helps that neither have to do the chores!

“This quality time spent enjoying shared interests seems to be a winning formula for a lasting marriage, along with placing value on time apart pursuing individual hobbies.

“However, as this survey clearly shows, it takes a good mix of humour, affection, understanding and interest to keep a relationship exciting.”

Other tips shared by those deeply happy in wedlock include forgiving bad habits, not going to sleep on an argument and turning a blind eye when the other is being moody or annoying.

While many swear by trying new things together, going on weekends away and surprising the other half with unexpected gifts.

Some of the more comfortable couples believe the key to their success is down to picking their battles, not being offended if the other uses the loo in front of them – and always taking their partner’s side, regardless of whether they are right or not.

A fair distribution of the household chores paves the way for a successful union, as does being able to laugh with each other after an argument.

Researchers found that 63 per cent of married adults place a lot of importance on their other half behaving romantically – with one in five impressed with the larger gestures like booking a trip away.

More than seven in 10 definitely agree that spending time away together without any distractions can add excitement to any relationship – and remind them why they love each other so much.

However, 36 per cent are also content with the smaller acts of kindness such as dinner out every now and then.

And almost four in 10 consider everyday gestures such as putting the bins out as romantic.

 Simon Thompson added: “The definition of romance differs from person to person.

“Some are content with tiny little gestures on a regular basis and others want the full hearts and flowers approach to love.

“Whatever your preference, the key to a happy marriage appears to be time – time with each other, time apart, time to forgive, time to laugh and time to understand.”

TOP 50 KEY COMPONENTS OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE

  1. Spending quality time together
  2. Looking after them when they're sick
  3. Feeling you can be completely yourself
  4. Letting them pursue their own hobbies and interests
  5. Seeing each other at your worst and best
  6. Having regular cuddles
  7. Being respectful to them in front of others
  8. Making regular plans together
  9. Being proud of their achievements
  10. Being silly with each other
  11. Exploring new places together
  12. Sharing the same sense of humour
  13. Trying new things together
  14. Always remembering important occasions
  15. Not making decisions for each other without checking in first
  16. Having a fair distribution of household chores
  17. Showing an interest and engage even when they’re talking about something you really don’t understand
  18. Forgiving their bad habits
  19. Doing things they want to do, even if you don’t enjoy it
  20. Saying ‘I love you’ every day
  21. Saying 'good morning' and 'good night' each day
  22. Listening to the other grumble about work
  23. Going on weekends away together
  24. Always making them a hot drink when you make one
  25. Not going to sleep on an argument
  26. Turning a blind eye when the other is grumpy
  27. Being prepared to watch TV shows you don't like
  28. Being nice to their family / get on with the in-laws
  29. Having a good routine
  30. Being forgiving if they admit to bumping the car or shrinking your favourite t-shirt
  31. Going to some length to make one another laugh
  32. Being able to laugh about arguments afterwards
  33. Watching a TV series together and trusting the other one not to watch an episode alone
  34. Noting when they talk about something they are interested in or want, and treat them with it later
  35. Make an effort with their friends
  36. Accepting that sometimes you get a better night’s sleep apart
  37. Picking your battles
  38. Having weird in-jokes
  39. Surprising them with gifts
  40. Always praising them to other people
  41. Being prepared to share your meal when eating out
  42. Saying they still look beautiful when they're looking their worst
  43. Being comfortable with going to the toilet in front of each other
  44. Buying an extra snack or drink even though they said they didn't want it (because you know they will want one when they see yours)
  45. Passing wind in front of each other without being grossed out
  46. Leaving nice messages for one another
  47. One of you being a voice of reason
  48. Regularly delivering tea or coffee in bed
  49. Playfully insulting each other relentlessly
  50. Always taking one another's side even if they’re not right

Notes to Editors

Contact Information 

For any more information or imagery please email warnerpressoffice@bourne-leisure.co.uk and warner@wpragency.co.uk

About Warner Leisure Hotels

Warner Leisure Hotels, renowned for short breaks 'exclusively for adults' are set in some of the UK's finest historic countryside and coastal locations. From the picturesque Yorkshire Dales to the glistening Solent shores of the Isle of Wight; each hotel offers fine dining, lovely rooms, live entertainment, and plenty of areas to just relax and soak up the scenery. Guests can even try their hand at a new 'experience', or simply sit back, unwind.